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Several of you have asked me how I stay hopeful, and what are my coping strategies in stressful times like these. I rely on six.

1.  Young people. My students (all 750 of them this semester) are mostly around 20 years old. My colleagues at Inequality Media are mostly in their late 20s. In other words, all are about a half-century younger than I am. Their energy, optimism, laughter, and hopefulness are hugely infectious.

2.   Laughter. I try to find at least five things to laugh at each day (including myself). As I age, I find that the world is brimming with ironies, that the cosmos is deviously humorous, and that most of the people I know or read about are hilarious (whether they know it or not).

3.   Activism. I not only stay active physically, but also try to help push my small corner of the world toward truth and social justice. The more I do, the better I feel. I love this Substack because it gives me an opportunity to share some thoughts and ideas with you, and hear your own thoughts and ideas.

4.   Nature and personal time. I’m blessed to live in a beautiful place, with gorgeous flora and with mountains descending into glorious valleys and to the sea, along with easily accessible trails. Quiet walking through this fabulous environment puts me at ease.

5.   Dance. There is nothing that lifts my spirits more quickly than clicking on a song by Paul Simon, the Doobie Brothers, Stevie Wonder, Ray Charles, James Brown, Marvin Gaye, Sam Cooke, Buena Vista Social Club, or Dolly Parton – and dancing. My preference is to dance with someone, but I’m perfectly happy to dance alone in my kitchen.

6.   History. Not only do I love to read it, but I learn a great deal from reading it – especially the truism that we’ve been here before. Lately I’ve been focusing my attention on the years between 1870 and 1916 – the first Gilded Age, followed by the Progressive Era. I’ve found many parallels between then and now, along with quite a bit that’s encouraging.

What I’ve left out and why:

Friends? I have them, and sometimes they contribute to one of the six-mentioned coping mechanisms above. But (and here again, probably age-related) I’ve found that too often our get-togethers descend into gripe sessions about the nation, the world, or personal health. Ugh.

Family? I love them dearly. But I don’t rely on them to buoy my spirits. That’s too much of a burden to place on them. And, of course, families are complicated in all sorts of ways.

Work? I’m trying to cut back on the parts of my work that don’t fit under the six-mentioned coping mechanisms, because they’re mostly meetings about processes or they’re paperwork or they require bureaucratic problems. I don’t really enjoy any of this, and I have less and less time for them.

Any of this helpful to you?

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@Robert Reich. Super helpful to me, particularly the three things you left out of the list of coping mechanisms! Wonderful, authentic, honest. My own family comes in on three levels - my kids, wow they are awesome. My siblings, yeah, well, tolerable. Beyond? I had to get off of fogbook to try to keep the peace. Two kinds of work, the kind to make a living (I'm done) and the kind we need to do to preserve our way of life and create positive options for the future (more and more!). And friends... sigh. Thank you so much for sharing such intimate, honest and insightful details.

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Yes - The happy dancing even if it's by yourself. I'm still smiling thinking about it and will definitely be giving it a go. It also brought to mind the Billy Idol song "Dancing with Myself" and the lyrics "If I had the chance I'd ask the world to dance...". Great song too. I also keep seeing the old Charlie Brown cartoons with everyone dancing while Schroeder cranking away on the piano! Beautiful, thank you, Robert!

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This was so uplifting and wise Robert. Thank you for sharing this.

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All of the above, but especially number 4. I live on a beautiful river with lots of woods where I have created a bird sanctuary that not only entertain me but my beautiful cat Purrl. Despite all the misery, I try to be grateful for all that is good in my life, and to live just one day at a time. Starting the day with reading and listening to office hours, gives me hope and plenty of food for thought. Thank you!

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Oh yes laughter and activism are keys for me as well!

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Yes - laughter is medicinal. And I like your take on what you left out and why. I left the same three things out of my response.

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One of my biggest and most soothing coping mechanisms is listening to YOU, Prof Reich. I've followed you since I first saw Inequality for All. Just this week I'm rewatching the W&P class lectures, and this morning I read your brilliant essay on the Putin/Trump/Carlson common messaging... at the behest of and in service to corporate interests. Wow.

I happened to read your piece in the Guardian just after reading how ISIS targeted angry and frustrated young men to commit their violence, including the murder of James Foley and others. Sounds familiar.

I feel informed and galvanized, practicing my replies and questions to the many people around me with whom I disagree. I'm part of a letters-to-the-editor writing group in AZ - we are focusing a narrow sliver of voters who are persuadable. A calm and consistent stance is a great asset.

Thank you for all you do. Huge huge thanks.

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Informed and galvanized,?

Here's a little Gestalt therapy to focus on the present: Register more Democrats. https://www.fieldteam6.org/

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Thanks - I have lots of projects going. Good luck to you!

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Thank you, Loretta.

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Loretta. I live in Prescott. What city do you reside in? Thanks for caring and being part of Robert's chats.

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Hi Cecelia - I'm in Tempe, and this is the first time I've ever lived in a red state. Are you a native Arizonan?

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Loretta. I was born in Wyoming. Left that beautiful but cold state for Arizona sunshine 40 years ago. Raised my 2 sons in Tempe. I moved 27 years ago north to Prescott Arizona. Home to The largest Repulican Women chapter in the the USA. The democrats have been working hard to turn Arizona Blue instead of Red. I try and see purple where we all work together to make our great country and beautiful planet healthy 💜 😊 Enjoy Tempe. If you travel north let's meet for tea at my office. Sending you Hugs.

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focus on what I can control. Seeing every dollar that I spend as a vote for the kind of world I want to live in. Buy local. Buy organic. Buy used. Live simply. Put my money not towards stuff but towards people and planet. Put my energy into restoration of biodiversity in my yard and my neighborhood.

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Words to live by.

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Thank you for your great response HealTheSoil. We are doing the same around our home. I watch the soil in Ukraine being destroyed by poison chemicals falling from the bombs. People, pets and animals dying. When will we learn this is a small planet. We need to all protect Mother Earth. Sending you hugs from Arizona

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I try to help others and my community. I am a volunteer director of a community land trust. We purchase blighted properties to renovate and sell to first time home buyers at affordable rates. It is painful to see how people live in our city slums. The landlords are deployable. They are more greedy humans who wish to be as wealthy as those who are destroying this country. Only by helping one family at a time can I find hope. Frankly, I will only find optimism again when white color crime results in real punishment. When the bankers and accountants who caused me to lose savings for retirement in 2008 are in jail. Sorry, but instead of worrying that our democracy is threatened, we need to rewrite our constitution to form a better government than the one we have.

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There's no question that doing good for others is therapeutic.

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Please don’t lump all landlords into the greedy category. We owned 21 apartments for nearly 30 years and always treated our tenants fairly. Our rents were slightly below market and we actually reduced rents during the recession. We also allowed tenants to work off part or all of their rents when times got rough and even gave food boxes and gifts to some who were struggling. We now own a duplex in Portland and even though inflation has soared, we have not raised our rents. We were renters once and have not forgotten the kindness of our landlords.

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Karen, when I was in college I managed a 64 unit apartment building in exchange for rent and a small salary. That's how I know, there are some really good landlords out there, who also happen to make a good income.

I understand why you felt the need to defend yourself, but I think you have a whole lot more to offer. You are that rare landlord who did well, while doing good. And that story - your story - is the one people need to hear. Tell us what you did different, tell us how you made money without exploiting people, or being a slumlord. The reason I ask you to think about doing that, is because...

As the result of long-term efforts to demonize and stereotype renters, Americans are convinced that landlords are always getting screwed by renters. That is simply not true, but it has worked to relieve landlords of legal requirements to maintain their property. For example, our city condemned a renter's home over a gas leak and broken heater and the tenants found temporary housing. The landlord sued, and the court ordered the tenant to pay seven month's rent for the time the house sat empty waiting for the landlord to make repairs. According to the judge, the tenant could have used electric heaters and stayed in the house. The difference between natural gas and electric heat costs in winter temps ranging from zero to the teens is several hundred dollars a month.

If it helps, I have always been grateful for good landlords.

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raffey ; The Judge said they should have used electric heaters in a space where there was an unrepaired gas leak? Even if the gas was turned off, that sounds iffy (also, as was pointed out, electric is expensive).

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Unfortunately, this kind of crazy reasoning is common to courts and judges in rural regions of the country.

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Karen, I appreciate your kindness to tenants. My particular community has a poverty rate of over 20%. The part of town that we are trying to improve is far poorer. Building owners in more affluent areas would be less likely to practice building disinvestment. There is a vicious pattern that happens: poor housing conditions attracts only 'problem' tenants. Problem tenants destroy property. Responsible landlords then feel 'why bother' to improve the property. I understand both sides.We must find a way for more of us to build wealth rather than more and more of us barely affording even rent.

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Poor housing does NOT attract only PROBLEM tenants. It attracts the people who can only afford poor housing. We do not create poor housing, but we cannot afford what other people can pay for. And because we complain we get listed as "poor tenants!" Blanket statements never tell the truth!

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I need to be more careful about my statements. :(

I work with many good people stuck in terrible housing because the vacancy rate is extremely low. They seldom complain about the conditions because, if the complaint is heard by a code officer, they fear they will be evicted. These apartments are their homes. Yesterday I looked at five apartments in three homes now for sale. One family has been living there for 15 years. Imagine how they must have felt if they thought I would purchase the property and evict them. And that is happening as new owners often want to raise rent. Damage to properties done by some tenants occurs when they have received notice that their lease will not be renewed. I can only begin to comprehend their emotional stress. If only our land trust could do more to provide affordable homes but despite the money being distributed by the Federal government, there are precious few dollars available to nonprofits to improve low income rental or homeownership properties.

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Nancy. Thank you for your passion and caring. Keep up the good work you are doing.

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Yeah Nancy - my kind of person is a doer. Do you share your knowledge and experience on-line, in a blog, or some platform like Medium? I sure hope so, because other people who want to do something like that need the kind of help, only people who've done it, can give.

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Thank you! Excellent idea. I do give occasional lectures but a blog would be a better forum. It would permit me to better express the difficulties or frustrations of working with people who have too little money or hope and others with never-satisfied greed. Better yet, I might receive helpful comments like yours!

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Could your community land trust consider financing single room occupancy properties? Families are important, but some single people are homeless because they can't afford the current apartment rentals.

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I read this newsletter, Letters From An American, Today’s Edition by Robert Hubbell. I also watch Trae Crowder on YouTube. He’s the Liberal Redneck. Lord, he makes me laugh! But I also take a long walk most days, and I am babysitting my baby granddaughter. At 3 months, she’s a delight. I hear her baby coos and see her fascinated by her fingers. The stupid stuff all the old people in Washington are doing fades into the background. I work in my yard and makes plans for flowers and veggies. I watch and listen to the birds, and I see the bees and other pollinators visiting the flowers. The natural world, even as threatened as it is, carries on with the business of life. I try to keep calm and carry on, kind of like the Queen does. Tearing one’s hair out over the mean, hateful things people are doing all over the place eventually just leaves one bald. I pray and I have a glass of wine occasionally.

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Yes, and I'm going bald.

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It sounds as though we live the same life!

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It's a bit difficult in isolation - but "changing up" to a different gear: slowing down the tempo with some time spent in nature (e.g. sunshine) or, alternatively, some vigorous cardiovascular exercise. Also, maintaining a health breadth, e.g. activities like cooking & interests like art!

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I stay hopeful by keeping to a regular routine of talking to longtime friends, daily exercises, lots of reading and music (classical and jazz, especially), signing petitions and writing comments on news stories (where permitted).

The routine above keeps me from declining into the enervating misery of despair and cynicism, which is exactly the trap that the enemies of democracy seek to instill.

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Deborah, I like your mix of taking care of yourself and also signing petitions and remaining an activist. Maintaining that balance is essential.

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Deborah. Thank you for caring and your passion. We are all trying to do our best. Hugs from Arizona.

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After retiring 10 years ago I went back to teach. Preparing classes and finding ways to connect with students gives me a major lift. Volunteering at the food bank let’s me connect with other volunteers and with members of the community who are in need. Directing the zoom meetings of the San Francisco Economic Round Table, sponsoring a Canadian friend who is leaving for Poland and the Ukraine to be a bus driver for refugees and for rescuing animals. Helping my … (too personal). I think most everyone can make a contribution to the community even in small ways. It is rewarding and it helps me to cope. Not to forget exercising and walking to enjoy beautiful wonders of nature, working in the garden is also great and shows immediately results…..

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Hartmut Fischer I love your passion for life. I also believe being around young folks in their 20's and 30's gives me a sense that we have a new generation that is really smart. The see through all the bullshit from the DC crowd. I believe this new generation in the USA will help to weed out the corruption in politics that is rampant on both sides. Keep on teaching!

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Could not agree more!

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You are giving back using your talents and resources for others. That’s what we were meant to do. 👍

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I act rather than react. I practice mental mastery to focus on the here and now and do not rob myself of the present by thinking too much about the future. I read Heather Cox Richardson's Letter From An American every morning. I read what you write and listen to your videos. I am grateful to be in the company of truth tellers. The more truth we are exposed to, the more hopeful I feel our Democracy will survive. I play Pickleball everyday, most frequently outside in local parks. The games are full of laughter. Though officially retired, I spend several hours each week mentoring a few prison inmates as they prepare for the world outside of prison. I choose my thoughts carefully because experience has taught me that my thoughts mobilize my feelings. Thoughts may be the only thing I can control to keep myself in a state of hopefulness. Cheers!

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Laughter!!!!!! Find something to laugh at (or someone to laugh with) at least five times a day.

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million hearts!

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I'm coping one day at a time! I have cut off cable and get most of my news from NPR, BBC America, and World News on PBS. I've stopped trying to change people's minds and have started listening to what they are saying...everyone is scared but not everyone is brainwashed! This leads us back to you and the information you continue to provide...thank you :)

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Yes, I have NPR on in the background from 8:00 am to 1:00 pm most days. Generally speaking, I like their coverage. However, they seem to be obligated to use Republican talking points whenever the topic is the economy.

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Stan, Sometimes the republicans make good points and they are not all trump puppets...:)

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Yes, I think the Emancipation Proclamation was a good point. Can you point to any recent wise statements by today’s Republicans? I’m waiting for them to press for legislation that benefits the average person as opposed to the average corporation.

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Good luck with that...if you can't help yourself then you are out of luck with many Republicans

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Republicans always seem to direct every discussion to the topic of individual responsibility and ignore the fact that the structure of systems — legal, academic, military, industrial, environmental, etc. — shapes how the individual can “help himself.” I don’t intend to bone up on Horatio Alger books and forget about the big picture. And thank you, I’ve been working for a living for 50 years.

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I stay hopeful by helping others. For the past 18 months or so I have been cooking to support the healthcare workers at my local hospital, bringing them food 2 to 3 times a week. I feel an empathy for what they do, having retired from medical practice about 8 years. ago.

As Napoleon once remarked, "Une armée se déplace sur son ventre." (An army advances on its stomach). I can't care for the patients any longer but I can care for those who do...

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For most of my adult life I've been prompted to "do something." Indeed, I became a licensed social worker and an activist. Now, I am quite ancient and sometimes anxious about our world and our country. I've been reading a lot about Eleanor Roosevelt and I also watched the PBS series about the Roosevelts. Here is what I learned: Eleanor began her humanitarian efforts on a very humble scale; she made coffee and sandwiches for the doughboys off to war. What she did was dig in and do the hard stuff, hours each day without grandiose aspirations of "fixing" the world. Decades later she was given a standing ovation at the opening of the United Nations. She was a founder and she was respected throughout the world for her tirelessness, commitment to peace and justice, and humbleness. Indeed, she was the impetus behind the many humanitarian bills that President Roosevelt passed to bring the nation out of the depression. That was a key for me. Just do something, do it well, do the dirty work. In other words, Chop Wood, Carry Water. Even small efforts add up. Oh, I also meditate to manage that anxiety!

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A few jelly beans seem to help.

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Dark chocolate.

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I also use Hershey kisses

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LOL!

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My best coping mechanism is to take daily walks and hikes with my dog. At least I know that somewhere in the world, unconditional love exists.

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There is not much we can control in the world except our "attitude" and "choices" we make every single day. Attitudes can positively or negatively affect a person's behavior. A person may not always be aware of his or her attitude or the effect it is having on behavior. A person who has positive attitude (such as contentment, friendliness, etc.) can positively influence those around them. I try to influence those around me be it in person, on the internet, through social media or other applications. I understand both sides of most issues. There are always ways to find a compromise. I follow Dr. Elaine Kissel. She teaches about our subconscious talking to our conscious. Her book: "The Mind is Willing" is a must read. Plus I help people every day that need help with our home care company. Helping others is a great way to cope. We are all on this planet for a short time. As we age we must become role models for the next generation. What did Will Smith slapping Chris Rock teach our kids Sunday night? What did Chris Rock learn about making fun of others? Perhaps learning to cope in today's new world is a work in progress for us all.

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RE: "Work in progress" -- I find it depressing that movie stars, who should be models of decent behavior, can't control themselves. Sounds like an old-fashioned idea, but what's the alternative? Today's youth won't benefit from the Oscars bruhaha except as an example of how not to act.

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If I did nothing but fret and worry and ruminate on all the problems, I'd be as depressed as a hound dog. Doing something keeps me up and optimistic and energized.

After 47 years of civic activism and organizing, I took stock of the future. In rural communities where I spent 35 years, activists in my network were all getting older. I was worried and sent out an email, asking hey, when we retire, do we plan on taking our experience, knowledge, skills and connections OUT of our networks along with us? We need to talk about this, because the 100 people I am emailing right now, have a collective 4,000 years of experience.

The response to that email was so inspiring, I won’t need inspiration for the rest of my life.

With few exceptions, we’ve moved into support, mentor, research and/or historian roles for young leaders. For example, I do everything from baking cookies, making coffee, running errands, proof-reading and babysitting, to consulting on non-profit development to writing explainers on laws and practices related to land-use and rural development.

Another retiree is building an archive of the movement she spent 47 years in as an attorney. Her archive work uncovered documentation in support of a case heard by the Supreme Court last year.

Without relationships, elected officials, politicians, and powerful business people will NOT take your call. By slowly and carefully transferring our relationship networks to young leaders, we helped short-circuit the time it would have taken them to build those relationships on their own.

Of course, you can’t do this work if you don’t know any young leaders. Unfortunately, most people have no connection to young leaders and no idea where to find them, or how to meet them.

If anyone is interested in this kind of work, volunteering with non-profits and political campaigns is the quickest way to meet young leaders - or become one. It’s a bit difficult for older people to move from being the top dog, to a support role, but if you keep your ego in check, you will find you are valued in ways you’ve never been valued before.

I’ve got civic awards coming out the kazoo, but hearing people say, that my cookies keep them coming back is the best reward ever. Oh, and when I babysit, it's activist training time. Kids love playing activists and organizers.

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