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Carol Navarrete's avatar

We tacitly teach narcissism and individualization as parents and teachers. Each child must have his/her own room, his/her own toys, etc. Grades, in school, reward individual achievement. Competition, whether it's athletic or having the best car or luxury lifestyle encourages it. One of the colonial statesmen commented that part of the "Indian problem" was that they weren't selfish enough. Native Americans practiced "give-aways" and communal property. If there was ownership, it was, among the Pueblos, in the hands of the women, and grandmothers were more powerful than chiefs in some tribes: they chose them, and if they didn't live up to their responsibilities, the grandmothers removed them. Even today, tribal casinos use the profits to build health clinics, centers for old folks, child care and after-school activities. I believe it was either Vine Deloria Jr. or Daniel R. Wildcat who, looking towards America's future, suggested Americans "tribalize," meaning we need to learn to look after each other. The welfare of the individual depends on the group; and the welfare of the group depends on the individual.

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Paula B.'s avatar

When you look at the history of this country this behavior isn’t so surprising. The country was “founded”—forgive me, Native Americans—by two kinds of people: those who were so far out of the mainstream that they couldn’t function within the societies in which they lived (Puritans, etc.), and those seeking profit, from Columbus, Ferdinand, and Isabella onward. South Carolina is a good example. Europeans who settled in the Caribbean came there in search of ways to make money, and so rice and indigo plantations were born. Then what happened? They needed labor and we got slavery. The people who rebelled against England did so for profit, but they cloaked their rebellion in terms of “freedom” to attract poorer people to the fight. Is it any wonder we have the nonsense we’ve got today? Americans have bought into capitalism like a religion as well as the myth of exceptionalism that goes back to the revolution. Throw slavery and its terrible effects into the mix and you get Trump, anti-vaxxers, and a narcissism that’s so toxic it’s destroying our society.

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